For women with children, however, the story is different. Due to a combination of insufficient childcare and gender neutral expectations in the workplace, women are often forced to choose between children and careers. Even with a viable childcare solution, working mothers must sacrifice quality time with their children in order to pursue a 'real' career.
But what about working moms who have found an acceptable compromise as an individual contributor, perhaps working part-time or on a freelance basis? I can't speak for all of them but among the professional moms I know it seems I hear the same theme cropping up every time I talk to one of them.
What it boils down to is this: At some point in your career, especially if you used to be a high-flyer and are really good at what you do, being an individual contributor gets old. Especially as younger professionals join the workforce and end up managing these highly professional, experienced women.
Don't get me wrong. All of the women I spoke to are grateful to have a job and more time with their kids. My point is not that all of these women are ‘management material’, nor am I arguing for more women in management just because they are women - my best managers have been women but my absolute worst have, too.
Nonetheless, I find it interesting that in the last month I’ve chatted with five working mothers, each at the top of their professional game, who are frustrated for very similar reasons. For example:
C designs highly technical outer wear for some of the biggest names in outerwear. Chances are you own something designed by her, as do all the firemen and ski patrollers in Germany. ‘I love designing,’ she tells me, ‘but I'm tired of the endless meetings proving myself to people who don't even know what questions to ask. Ten years ago I didn’t mind, I was a childless workaholic and marketing myself was part of the price you pay to build a reputation. Now I mind.'
T is a doctor. It’s taking her twice as long to complete her residency because she works part-time, although she completes the same amount of work as her full-time colleagues by working more efficiently. What frustrates her the most is poor scheduling. ‘We have a person who works two days a week but they never get scheduled for surgery because no one bothers to check which days they're working each week. It means more work for me because I only work mornings but you can't just leave during surgery.’
K is a recruiter who is heavily in demand because she consistently brings in the talent all over Europe. Recently she’s been frustrated by the repetitive nature of her work. ‘I’m recruiting college grads,’ she complains, much like you or I might complain about dung beetles. ‘I did that ten years ago. And our processes are so inefficient, I could totally turn them around, but no one wants to hear it. And there’s too much work but no budget to hire someone to help me. My boss is nice enough but she’s just a kid.’
S designs enterprise software. If you use enterprise software at work there’s a good chance you use at least one of her products. ‘They have this new process where everyone works together at every stage of the design,’ she says. ‘I used to hash out the difficult bits, then work with the development team to refine and make changes where necessary before going into development. It was really efficient. Now I spend hours justifying the most basic and obvious business requirements to development. The new process takes forever.' She grins and adds: 'And they call it ‘agile development’.’
B is an electrical engineer who designs microchips. Your car probably has one of hers. She feels very deadlocked in her job. She explains: ‘It’s the same old conversations only with new people that have to reinvent the wheel. Maybe it’s an exciting voyage of discovery for them but I’m past that. I don’t know everything, and there’s new technology I haven’t worked with, but I know what works and what doesn’t. The problem is, I don’t have deciding power so I have to sit there and listen and try to persuade. Then after wasting most of my day in pointless meetings I have to dash out at 5 to get my kids.’
What these women seem to share is a high degree of experience, a strong desire to work more effectively and a frustrating lack of autonomy that prevents them from doing so.
There’s a fair amount of literature out there now that discusses the evolving role and increasing importance of women in the workplace. The primary focus seems to be on childcare, women in management, equal pay and the glass ceiling. All of this is interesting but not really the point.
I think the more important issue to tackle if we want to harness the power of women in the workforce is how experienced talent is managed, regardless of gender.
Image courtesy of Canarias 7.